Наталия Курбатова

5 мая 2023 5.05.2023

Нет смысла отстаивать границы

Нарушение границ болезненно в том случае, если с нашими границами что-то не в порядке. Всегда больно, когда трогают рану.

Что такое не в порядке? Мы плохо понимаем, где мы, а где не мы, сливаемся с какими-то фигурами. В конечном счете это всегда мама, но заменять ее могут партнёры, руководители и даже компании. Чаще всего это проявляется в ожиданиях от других, что они дадут нам то, чего нам не хватает. Интенсивное ожидание, иногда даже на уровне требования. Когда с границами все в порядке, их нарушение может вызвать раздражение или любопытство, но боли не будет. Нет смысла отстаивать границы, есть смысл их отстраивать.

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